Life/ 10 things to help busy mom's to take control and implement self-care

Self-care for the busy mom can feel like just another task that you just don't have time for, but is vital to you and your families well being. As mothers we give in so many capacities and often neglect our self-care. As a busy mom I have learned that challenges will come, so we must be masters of life management. I don't buy into the myth anymore that as a mom we come last on the priority scale. I now know that in order for me to be the best mother I need to embrace and make my self-care a priority. Your self-care should not ever be optional. I tell you from experience I am more available mentally, emotionally and relationally for my children when I take care of myself. So today I tell you DONT FEEL GUILTY ABOUT TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF, IT IS OK! Below I am sharing 10 things that will help you to take control of your life and enable you to implement self-care.

• Therapy/Coaching-To help if you're feeling overwhelmed and need help sorting through things to work on a plan.
• To do list- To help you keep perspective on your tasks for the day, so you are not all over the place. Stick to the things you have on the list to eliminate unnecessary challenges.
• The power of NO- Yes NO even to the children if it is not a necessary task don't feel bad about saying NO to things you just don't have to do.
• Create a Schedule- A schedule is great because you know what you have to do and so that eases tension and make things more manageable.
• Me time- Make arrangements for the family and go out and do something you like, even if it's getting a room and relaxing to recharge.
• Build a reliable village- Build a village (a group of reliable helpers) that supports you and you can entrust the care of your children when you need a break or me time.
• Make your self-care mandatory- Make the decision your self-care is not optional but mandatory. 
• Set clear priorities/boundaries- This helps to make decisions based on your priorities and set boundaries to have control in what and how you do things in your life.
• Train your children to be independent where they can- This one is everything, because we are to train our children to be productive adults, and this is a benefit for you and them short and long term. (examples: teach them to do chores, teach them to fix themselves something to eat, teach them to be responsible for their actions, teach them honesty, and teach them conflict management) This can be time consuming but in the end you will be grateful, trust me.
• Never be ashamed to ask for help